Response from Emanuel Lapp, a non-victim Anabaptist Male to CAM & Jeriah Mast Crimes

A deeply moving email landed in my inbox addressing the CAM and Jeriah Mast abuse case. Tears flowed as I read his message. As someone who had no experience with abuse – neither as victim nor as offender, and whose idyllic childhood left him with no understanding of it, he put into words something I, as a female, had never thought of or heard from anyone. He put to words the shame that he as a man feels after hearing of Jeriah’s crimes.

I don’t know if that response is common, but it made me realize again how victimizing children violates so many, even beyond those who are sexually abused. Certainly not int the same way, and the assault victims are and always should be prioritized, but the ripple effect creates trauma and suffering that extends far beyond the initial crime. I’ve been told that for this reason the crimes should not be publicized. I would propose that it is the reason we must speak out and make the crimes known so that accepting as ‘moral failure’ and a ‘slip during a weak moment’ is no longer acceptable. (And the Old Testament, which documents slaughterings of humans and sexual assaults, would give testimony to the need to speak out).

Thank you to Emanuel Lapp, the author of the following letter. And special thanks for permission to post the letter. I do not know him, or what group he is affiliated with, but appreciate the care and compassion shown in the letter.


Dear Trudy,

I suppose i’m sending this to an open forum, so if I am, then hello to all of you. I don’t know much about blogs, or whatever this is, not because it looks hard to learn, but because I’ve had so little time to invest in one more thing to take up more off the extra time that I don’t have. But I do at times use the computer at the local library, which is where I stopped in to get a news update on the Mast/Haiti/CAM situation.

I was aware that I had unanswered questions about homosexuality in the back of my m ind, but first, a disclaimer and then a little background about myself. In the following paragraphs, I use the umbrella term of “Anabaptists” loosely and do not wish to imply that “Anabaptists” of today would be accepted by original Anabaptists. They were recognized for their exemplary lives and for their firm stands against sin in the church. Now for my background in short form:

I was born at home, in a farmhouse on a peaceful dairy and crop farm in Lancaster County PA. Being Amish, I, as well as my ten siblings, were taught good work ethics and high morals from little up. Growing up, I knew nothing of immorality among our people, and would have been devastated had I found out. Mine was indeed an idyllic life and a protected childhood. I was never abused as a child, neither sexually nor otherwise, and have never been a perpetrator.

However, I was exposed to sexual sin at the young age of 10 or 11 when I overheard a 13 year old boy being a self-appointed teacher on human sexuality to a small group of his peers in a corner of the school playground, explaining it all, including masturbation, in graphic detail, only without exposing himself.

About a year later, as I was working a field in preparation for planting, I came upon a pornographic magazine lying in the roadside ditch. For years afterward I vacillated, never quite sure masturbation was wrong, but feeling dirty afterward.

As a teenager, I loved music. Gospel music. Then Country and Bluegrass. Then Rock & Roll. Then heavy metal Rock & Roll, and by that time, give over to the Rock & Roll rebellion of the 70’s, I indulged in drinking, dancing, and pot.

But perhaps because of the strict training of my Mom, or the warnings from Dad, coupled with their prayers, my first experience of having sex was at age 21 with my 19 years old bride. Now my wife of 37 years, going on 38, she is the only one I’ve ever had in that way. Which is a wonder that I ascribe to God and to praying parents, for during my “wild years” I had various girlfriends and many dates.

That is a little briefing on my background, now for the unanswered questions in the back of my mind.

One; How can men have sex with men?
Two; Or little boys?!?! Impossible! my mind screamed.
How could I not know? It’s 2019. I’ll be 59 years old this month.

The answer is that I have studiously avoided finding out. I’ve known sin.
I know natural temptation. And I knew how defiling sin can be to the mind. So I avoided perversion life the plague that it is. When the Scripture tells us “there hath no temptation taken you but that which is common to man,” it is referring to natural sin, not the perversions of Romans Chapter One. Those are in a class by themselves.

So then, the first reader response that I read to your blog was the one from Jay Voder. It was disturbing. Thank you for your level-headed response.

The next letter was the one from […] the experience of a victimized 12 year old boy. And I read….oral sex….anal sex…the pain of sitting in school the next day….I cried. And then I was filled with shame. “Anabaptist” shame, for though I’m no longer Amish, I’m still “Anabaptist” at heart and part of a church so identified. Masculine shame, almost ashamed to be a man. I don’t know that the above incident was “Anabaptist” nor do I know how far Jeriah fell, that is now up to the courts to discover, but to think that men can, and do, fall that low brings shame upon my gender. And no matter how far Jeriah fell or didn’t fall, we do know that little boys were defiled.

I had known of the Catholic scandal about their priests, knew it involved little boys, found the thought disgusting and shoved it aside. But now….it hits close to home and cannot be shoved aside.

Nor should it.

Then I got angry.

And discouraged.

And then sorry. For little boys. Especially in comparison to my idyllic childhood. Unprotected little boys. Exploited little boys. Defiled little boys.

And then I searched the news.
Sex abuse perpetrated here by a school teacher.
There by a coach.
Over here by a Pastor.
Over there by a Priest.
I read back over your response Jay.
And got mad.

And got over it. Maybe you’re just naive. I hope so. I hope Jeriah didn’t go as far as some do, but even if he didn’t, where is God in this unfortunate way of allowing a young man with a history of perverse sexual attraction to children, to have children in his care? Even at night. I understand the need for forgiveness and trusting God to change the hearts and lives of evil men, but even trustworthy men can fail by trusting people, including themselves, too far.

So now, as we pick up the pieces, let us also pick up those neglected pieces under the rug. So we can finish the puzzle and have the big picture, seeing where we must change. The puzzle pieces under the rug so often are the victims, or so I am told.

And so it seems.
They need a voice.
We need to allow them a voice.
We need to be a voice for them.
And as we hear them, may we say, as the Nations said of the Holocaust after WWII:
Never Again.

Because these young victims have their own personal Holocaust to live through. And as our Never Agains upset failed methods, may our faith be ignited with personal Pentecostal fire.

May the perpetrator, his family, and victims alike, find the grace of God to face life as it is now and be made whole, again or for the first time, through the power and love of Jesus.

Thank you Trudy, for being a “voice crying in the wilderness.” A voice for the victims of sex abuse.

And to my fellow “Anabaptists,” how can we ever trust again? Must we eye each other from here on with suspicion? Or may we call for a deeper level of transparency? Indeed, I believe I hear the Word of the Lord, through the Voice of Exposure and through His Word calling us to a deeper level of transparency.

To a deeper love and kinder help for abuse victims.
To tougher love for perpetrators.
No matter how close the emotional or relative ties.
God is calling us back to the Bible.
May we, together, heed the call.

The call to finding Exposure Redemptive.

Because Jesus Lives,
Emanuel Lapp



I am so grateful for men and women who are rising up to stand with victims. To see such a broad positive response, and encouraging the community to see exposure as redemptive, this is an answer to prayer. And to hear men – even those who have not been victimized or victimizers – rise up and call for the victims to be remembered and heard… this is healing for many!

Remember the victims! Remember Haiti!

As always…

~ T ~



One of the things we are working toward November 2, 2019, at  THE GATHERING, is creating a place where we collectively invite God into our grief.  It is exclusively for Anabaptist survivors of sexual abuse, and their trusted support persons to join together for a day of acknowledging the generations of suffering. We will cry out to God, together. The invitation is to ‘come as you are’ in your raw brokenness, if that’s where you’re at, or in your healed togetherness. The itinerary is simple. It isn’t about ‘who’ or ‘how’; it is about Jesus and a safe place to meet, to heal another layer, together.

NOTE: Anyone over 18 who sexually assaulted someone – whether child or other adult – is not welcome. This does not mean they are not forgiven if they have repented. It means victims should not fear being confronted with the source of their trauma on such a vulnerable day. Security guards will be present to remove any who show up and are identified as offenders by the victims.

Until August 1, 2019, registration for the day’s events includes lunch and attendance to the evening concert with Jason Gray, whose music had brought hope and healing to countless victims. Songs like “The Wound is Where the Light Gets In“, “A Way to See in the Dark“, Sparrows“, “Nothing is Wasted“, and many more speak a language we understand.

(More information for potential attendees is available under THE GATHERING Registration and for non-attendees at THE GATHERING Information.)



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© Trudy Metzger 2019

11 thoughts on “Response from Emanuel Lapp, a non-victim Anabaptist Male to CAM & Jeriah Mast Crimes

  1. Joel Horst July 10, 2019 / 6:43 pm

    Emmanuel, thank you for your words. Trudy, thank you for publishing this moving piece. May it go far and wide.

  2. jmzehrfamily July 10, 2019 / 7:58 pm

    Emmanuel you have voiced my heart cry in a way I never could have expressed myself. Thanks for sharing that. God heal our land. Forgive us where we have failed our little (innocent) ones! Help us break this cycle! Thanks Trudy for allowing your painful past to help others beyond theirs and to help uncover the deadly cancer we Anabaptist people are striken with.

    • Leroy Lapp July 10, 2019 / 10:07 pm

      Thank you Bro Emanuel! God bless you real good! My thoughts exactly. And tonight at prayer meeting…… Pray for CAM…… Pray for Jeriah Mast……. but my heart is crying, what about those innocent children?? What about those who truly are victims? What about those traumatized lives?? And, O God have mercy, but how many of them could have been spared?! “All it takes for evil men to prosper is for good men to do nothing!”
      Your brother Leroy

      Allow me to say this though. With all the talk of sexual abuse among “Anabaptists” among “Plain People.” We grew up Old Order Amish, our father was a deacon and our grandfather was a minister, when people talk about abuse, I tell them, this is not the people I grew up with, I knew of nothing like this, my father and grandfather would have been as appalled at these sins as we are! They were clean moral men, and taught us to be so as well! Thank you Jesus!

  3. Marcus Klassen July 10, 2019 / 11:44 pm

    While our minds rightfully go to the pain of the victims, we do well to think about the emotional and psychological pain that would motivate someone to do this as well.

    • Splsh4Ripls July 10, 2019 / 11:57 pm

      The Bible calls it a reprobate mind. Pain does not make us do wicked things. Indulging selfish lust (sexual or other) does. The Bible says we sin when we are led away of our own lust.

      How do we reconcile calling it “emotional and psychological pain” in light of that?

      That all said in relation to offending, it doesn’t mean there isn’t “emotional and psychological pain”. I would simply suggest that is a separate issue and one that is not the cause of such wickedness.

      • kirkdaniel July 11, 2019 / 10:46 am

        Oh, Trudy, you are so right.

    • kirkdaniel July 11, 2019 / 10:50 am

      I’m sorry, Marcus, but saying something like this, even though sincere, is like knives in the heart of survivors of sexual abuse.

      There is never an excuse.

      My heart is full of untold pain and grief over what happened to me. But I am not it sexually abusing others.

      Focus on the perpetrator is minimizing to survivors.

      • jmzehrfamily July 11, 2019 / 12:03 pm

        So true. We can never blame our past for killing someone especially a child. This kind of sexual abuse is not much different. In fact it can cause a whole lifetime of suffering for the victim. Pure evil is pure evil and must be nipped in the bud or it leads to this kind of terrible tragedy.

  4. andrewlambright July 11, 2019 / 5:38 am

    Thank you for your voice Emanuel! You did a good job of putting into words the feelings of shame we as men feel at the thought of the little people that were hurt by a person they were supposed to be able to trust. Leroy Lapp is right on, our parents and grandparents would be appalled at the crimes that occurred. The devil is busy and running out of time. Evil is evil and needs to be recognized. With that being said, Jeriah needs our prayers as well. He that is without sin is in a good position to cast the first stone. I’m not condoning what happened, it’s a horrible and unspeakable tragedy, but where there is life there is hope for redemption and I wish that for all of us. May we all go hand in hand to that eternal kingdom, free from sin and the cares and trials of this world. Pray for me and the little people that come and go at my house. My wife and I don’t have biological children, but as foster parents we are exposed to a world we knew nothing about as children growing up. Life is short, life is fleeting, and the grave is not its goal. Dust thou art, to dust returnest, was not spoken of the soul. May we all meet….

  5. Ann Peachey Detweiler July 11, 2019 / 5:42 am

    As a victim of violent sexual abuse when I was a very young girl, I was moved by your response, Emmanuel. It is healing to see people who’ve never had their “own personal Holocaust” to deal with, rise up and say “never again!” It is healing because you called it what it is and you validated the pain many of us face. May God raise up more men and women like you for His honor and glory, so that we, together, can show Jesus to the those who’ve been wounded I’m our culture and beyond.

  6. kirkdaniel July 11, 2019 / 10:56 am

    A thousand thank-you’s! My heart was very moved by reading this.

    And now, if all the men reading this who have never experienced this horrible crime would just stand behind those who have, it would be life from the dead for us.

    Don’t just decry this unspeakable sin. Support those who have been victims. Don’t expect men who were abused to just “get over it” or “move on”. Don’t use forgiveness as a club to keep them silent.

    Don’t be ashamed of their tears and their struggles. Support them. Comfort them. Try to understand their pain.

    They need it far more than you think.

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